Writing a BreakUp Letter to Cancer

I think about this often.

Why would it be beneficial to write your diagnosis a breakup letter?

Because it gives you the opportunity to say how you really feel about cancer and the role it has played in your life. It gives you the space to take a stance and declare: I am done.

Done letting it scare me.
Done letting it control me.
Done letting it dictate my happiness, my mental health, my emotions, and how I show up each day.

This step creates a sense of ownership over the experience you are having.

And when you take back ownership of your experience, a new level of freedom is unlocked.

If you have never been in a toxic relationship but are experiencing cancer, let me tell you — the mental, emotional, and spiritual impact can feel comparable. It invades your thoughts. It challenges your identity. It tries to redefine you.

But here is the truth: you get to define you.

Unlocking Freedom

When we unlock this new freedom, the paths that were once hidden begin to reveal themselves. We see options where we once saw fear. We see possibility where we once saw limitation.

Embracing that freedom means taking the next step toward loving ourselves.

The power of self-love can carry us through some of the most challenging moments of our lives. With self-love comes confidence. With confidence comes the ability to face circumstances with bravery that you cultivated within yourself.

You begin to move forward with the knowledge that even though something feels hard — you have done hard things before. You are capable of the next step.

You faced cancer head-on and said, “No more. I choose myself. I choose to love myself — even the parts I don’t like so much.”

Those parts of ourselves we struggle with? They will continue to show up until we are ready to face them. That is another conversation for another day.

In the meantime, until you have the tools to navigate those parts, when they show up, simply say:

“I see you. I know we have things to talk about. I am not quite ready — but we will meet again.”

There is power in acknowledging without abandoning yourself.

I encourage you to write your breakup letter to your diagnosis and see what unfolds for you.

You may be surprised by the freedom waiting on the other side.

You don’t have to wait for remission to reclaim your power. You don’t have to wait for the “all clear” to choose yourself.

Write the letter.
Draw the line.
Take your power back.

And if you’re ready to go deeper — to untangle fear, rebuild identity, and create the journey of your choosing — I would be honored to walk beside you.

Sending love to you,
Laura