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When Cancer Brings Your Past to the Surface

Cancer has a way of pulling everything forward.

Guilt.
Shame.
Fear.
Frustration.
Self-deprecating thoughts.
Old internal dialogues we were quietly allowing to live rent-free inside of us.

Suddenly, they are center stage.

Some people begin to wonder:

“Is this happening because of something I did?”
“Am I being punished?”
“Do I deserve this?”

Let me say this clearly: cancer is not a moral consequence.

But when we carry unresolved shame, it can look for somewhere to attach itself. And a diagnosis can become the place it lands.

Many of us have things in our past we are not proud of. Choices we made when we were younger, scared, misinformed, or desperate for approval, love, validation, or security.

Sometimes we took shortcuts.
Sometimes we went against our values.
Sometimes we did what we believed we needed to survive.

And then we buried it.

We shoved the shame down.
We never spoke of it.
We silently judged ourselves.

That buried shame can turn into chronic stress, harsh inner dialogue, and deeply rooted beliefs that whisper:

“You’re not worthy.”
“You don’t deserve good things.”
“You did this to yourself.”

Those beliefs are heavy.
And they impact our Mental, Emotional, and Spiritual state — our MES.

It may be time to bring that MES to the surface. Not to punish yourself. But to heal.

You are not the same person today as the person who made those choices.

You have grown.
You have learned.
You have evolved.

A Piece of My Story

I want to share something I have never spoken publicly before.

There was a time in my life when I believed my worth was tied to my appearance. I made choices rooted in the belief that beauty was my currency and that success required performance.

Those choices did not bring the fulfillment I thought they would. They left me carrying deep shame.

But today, I look back at that version of myself with compassion.

She was scared.
She was navigating a world that placed value on appearance over intelligence.
She was doing what she believed she needed to do at the time.

Healing came when I stopped condemning her — and started understanding her.

Healing our past is not about excusing behavior. It is about integrating it. Learning from it. Releasing the identity attached to it.

When we do that, something shifts physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.

Cancer is more than physical. It impacts the whole being — our MES.

And sometimes the work is not just fighting cells in the body, but healing narratives in the mind.

Here is a powerful question to ask yourself:

“If the old version of me were sitting beside me asking for forgiveness… what would I say?”

Be honest.

If anger comes up — that’s part of grief.
If sadness comes up — that’s part of compassion.
If love comes up — that’s growth.

Your past self does not need condemnation.
Your present self needs freedom.

I encourage you to begin healing the relationship you have with who you were — so you can fully support who you are becoming.

And if you need a safe space to unpack it all — without judgment, without shame — I am here.

Just a click away.

Sending love,
Laura

Writing a BreakUp Letter to Cancer

I think about this often.

Why would it be beneficial to write your diagnosis a breakup letter?

Because it gives you the opportunity to say how you really feel about cancer and the role it has played in your life. It gives you the space to take a stance and declare: I am done.

Done letting it scare me.
Done letting it control me.
Done letting it dictate my happiness, my mental health, my emotions, and how I show up each day.

This step creates a sense of ownership over the experience you are having.

And when you take back ownership of your experience, a new level of freedom is unlocked.

If you have never been in a toxic relationship but are experiencing cancer, let me tell you — the mental, emotional, and spiritual impact can feel comparable. It invades your thoughts. It challenges your identity. It tries to redefine you.

But here is the truth: you get to define you.

Unlocking Freedom

When we unlock this new freedom, the paths that were once hidden begin to reveal themselves. We see options where we once saw fear. We see possibility where we once saw limitation.

Embracing that freedom means taking the next step toward loving ourselves.

The power of self-love can carry us through some of the most challenging moments of our lives. With self-love comes confidence. With confidence comes the ability to face circumstances with bravery that you cultivated within yourself.

You begin to move forward with the knowledge that even though something feels hard — you have done hard things before. You are capable of the next step.

You faced cancer head-on and said, “No more. I choose myself. I choose to love myself — even the parts I don’t like so much.”

Those parts of ourselves we struggle with? They will continue to show up until we are ready to face them. That is another conversation for another day.

In the meantime, until you have the tools to navigate those parts, when they show up, simply say:

“I see you. I know we have things to talk about. I am not quite ready — but we will meet again.”

There is power in acknowledging without abandoning yourself.

I encourage you to write your breakup letter to your diagnosis and see what unfolds for you.

You may be surprised by the freedom waiting on the other side.

You don’t have to wait for remission to reclaim your power. You don’t have to wait for the “all clear” to choose yourself.

Write the letter.
Draw the line.
Take your power back.

And if you’re ready to go deeper — to untangle fear, rebuild identity, and create the journey of your choosing — I would be honored to walk beside you.

Sending love to you,
Laura

The Importance of Healing

Cancer Is Wild

Have you ever heard — or said — something like this?

“I’m being strong for my family.”
“My spouse told me what we built doesn’t work without me, so I have to shove down my emotions.”
“I can’t show weakness.”
“I am the rock.”
“My mental health is suffering.”
“I was taught that men don’t deal with emotions.”

These statements often come from fear. From conditioning. From misunderstanding what strength actually is. Sometimes, this is our ego speaking. When we protect our ego — or try to live up to other people’s expectations — we can end up doing ourselves a profound disservice. We risk jeopardizing our mental health, our healing, and even our sense of purpose.

I call this part of us the MES:

M – Mental
E – Emotional
S – Spiritual

Our own personal mess.

When we push down our MES…When we sidestep the hurt…When we pretend we’re “fine”…

We don’t eliminate pain — we multiply it.

A false sense of strength is still false. It requires pretending. It requires masking. It requires disconnecting from what is real. And disconnection does not lead to healing. Sometimes, real strength is letting someone see the crack in the armor. Sometimes, real strength is saying, “I am not okay.” Sometimes, your journey is about finally becoming who you truly are — instead of who you were taught to be.

You are more than the roles you carry. More than the expectations placed on you. More than the messages you were handed about who you’re “supposed” to be.

You are more.

Let’s Plant a Seed

The seed I want to hand you today is the Seed of Truth.

Plant it in your mind. Water it with the belief that you are more than your past. More than the mistakes you’ve made. More than the words someone once used to define you. You are more.

And every time a weed — a lie — pops up, ask yourself:

What proof do I have that I am __________?

Shine light on it and watch the lie shrink under examination. Truth grows in light. And if you are struggling — truly struggling — please don’t do it alone.

Schedule a complimentary call. You don’t have to carry the “rock” role here. You don’t have to perform strength with me.

You just get to be human.

Sending love,
Laura

A Very Special Purpose

Purpose in Hard Circumstances…

Have you ever thought:

“Cancer is so overwhelming.”
“I feel lost.”
“I don’t know who I am anymore.”
“I feel broken.”
“Is cancer my only future?”

These thoughts are more common than you think. While this may sound cliché, I truly believe we are all here for a unique and meaningful purpose. For some, a cancer diagnosis becomes part of discovering that purpose. For others, the purpose may simply be surviving, healing, loving, or learning to live again. There is no single path — and there is no timeline you must follow.

Sometimes purpose is connected to something you were once passionate about but never pursued because fear held you back. Sometimes it is born directly from the diagnosis itself — from the journey you never asked for. And sometimes, it unfolds quietly over time.

My Example

I was a life coach before my diagnosis. But walking through Triple Negative Breast Cancer changed everything. The diagnosis clarified my direction. The treatment stripped me down — physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually. It challenged my identity. It confronted my vanity. It forced me to let go of false narratives about who I thought I needed to be.

And from that breaking came rebuilding. Not because cancer was a gift. But because I chose not to let it define the end of my story. Today, I am blessed to do work I feel deeply called to — walking beside others as they rediscover themselves beyond diagnosis. And that purpose? It feels aligned, authentic, and earned through experience.

If you are feeling lost, if you feel broken, if you’re wondering who you are now…

There may still be purpose waiting to be uncovered. Not pressure, not expectation, just possibility.

If you would like support exploring what your life could look like beyond this chapter, I invite you to schedule a complimentary discovery call.

You are not done, your story is not over and cancer does not get the final word.

Sending love,
Laura

Power of prayer

Our words matter. How we speak to our higher power matters. How we think and speak about our circumstances matter. Why? Because our higher power is always listening. If your prayers don’t match your thoughts and your words daily about your circumstances your higher power knows… They are not a fool.

So I would encourage you to check your internal dialogue, your external dialogue, and your prayers. Shift all of your to prayers of gratitude. Thank your higher power for what you want to receive, thank them for helping you through your circumstances and for helping you into the circumstance you want.

It is amazing what happens when we shift our prayers, thoughts, and our words daily.

If you are struggling with reframing, or you find yourself stuck in a chronic need thought pattern, schedule a free discovery call. There really is nothing to lose.

Sending love,

Laura

How We pray matters

Did You Know That How We Pray Matters?

Have you ever noticed how small shifts in language can completely change the energy of what you’re saying?

For example:

“Please pray that I don’t have cancer.”
versus
“Please pray for a cancer-free outcome.”

Those two statements may seem similar — but they carry different focus and intention. Words matter.

Another shift can be found in the foundation of the prayer itself. Are your prayers rooted in need? Or are they rooted in gratitude?

A Prayer from Need:

“I need my tests to come back clear.”

A Prayer from Gratitude:

“Thank you for the clear test results.”

One comes from fear and urgency. The other comes from trust and expectancy. This is not about bargaining. It’s not about pretending everything is fine. And it’s certainly not about denying reality.

It’s about intentionally speaking what you desire — and aligning your heart with gratitude, even before you see the outcome. Gratitude changes the posture of your spirit. It shifts you from desperation to trust. From panic to surrender. Prayers spoken from a place of need still matter. They are heard. They are human. There is nothing wrong with them.

But when we begin to practice gratitude-based prayer, something shifts internally. We begin to embody the peace we are asking for. We begin to act from hope rather than fear. Your higher power is not confused by your needs. And your higher power is not offended by your humanity. Communication simply looks different on that level.

So here is a gentle challenge:

Pay attention to how you pray this week. Notice your language. Notice your focus.
Notice whether you are asking from fear or speaking from trust.

Be intentional with your words. Be intentional with your thoughts. And simply observe what shifts inside you.

Sending love,
Laura

Cancer Does not make you feel safe

When someone tells you there is something inside your body that could kill you, your world stops.

You freeze, you panic and your mind goes into overdrive, and your nervous system sounds the alarm.

This is normal.

But normal doesn’t mean okay. And because it’s not okay, safety suddenly feels very far away. Your sense of security can disintegrate in an instant. What once felt stable now feels fragile. Predictability disappears. Your body — the place that once felt like home — may no longer feel trustworthy.

Feeling safe can become a hyperfixation. You reach for anything that offers relief. Anything you can grasp. Even if it’s temporary. Even if it’s not entirely rational.

Why?

Because that is what trauma does when you are trying to process something life-altering in real time.

Your brain is not broken.
Your body is not dramatic.
Your response is human.

Rebuilding a Sense of Safety

Safety can be rebuilt — slowly, intentionally, gently.

(This is not medical advice. Always consult your provider before starting anything new.)

Grounding exercises, somatic practices, and centering techniques can be powerful tools when everything feels like it is spinning out of control. They help regulate your nervous system. They remind your body that this moment — right now — is survivable.

Safety is not pretending cancer isn’t scary. Safety is creating moments where your nervous system can exhale. Yes, cancer is frightening. And no — you do not have to face that fear alone.

There are ways to steady yourself inside the storm. There is always help just a click away. I would be happy to hold your hand in the darkness as you find your way into the light.

Sending love,
Laura

Creating your cancer journey

Everyone’s cancer journey is unique. The experience will be different based on your expectations, your internal dialogue, who you are as a person, your beliefs, your emotions, your mental health, and your spiritual health. Every part of what makes you, you plays a part in what you experience.

You are worthy of a future only you can dream of. Cancer is a chapter in your story. it doesn’t have to be the last chapter, or the theme of your future chapters. You get to write your future because you are the main character.

If you are wanting to write your next chapters and need some guidance, you are in the right place.

Schedule a free Discovery call and we can walk through this together.

Sending Love,

Laura

Cancer Sucks But life doesn’t have to

Let's talk about the impacts of a cancer diagnosis.

Cancer can affect our lives in numerous ways. The physical, emotional, and psychological effects are just the tip of the iceberg. Following this traumatic experience, the challenges of treatment, along with financial and social pressures, come into play. Recognizing when to set limits and when to initiate change is crucial for navigating these impacts.

A cancer diagnosis can have profound physical, emotional, and psychological impacts on an individual. Physically, cancer and its treatments—such as chemotherapy, radiation, and surgery—can lead to extreme fatigue, pain, nausea, weakened immune function and so much more. These side effects can drastically alter a person’s daily routine, limiting their ability to work, exercise, or engage in social activities. In some cases, permanent changes to the body, such as scarring or organ damage, can affect self-image and overall well-being. Managing these physical effects requires a combination of medical treatment, lifestyle adjustments, and support from mental and healthcare providers.

Emotional Impacts:

Emotionally, receiving a cancer diagnosis can trigger a range of feelings, including fear, anxiety, sadness, and even anger. The uncertainty of the disease's progression and the possibility of a shortened lifespan can cause significant distress, not only for the patient but also for their loved ones. Many individuals experience depression or struggle with feelings of isolation, especially if their support network is limited. Coping mechanisms such as therapy, support groups, and mindfulness practices can help individuals navigate these emotional challenges and improve their mental resilience throughout their treatment journey.

Financial and Social Burdens:

Beyond personal impacts, a cancer diagnosis can also create financial and social burdens. The cost of treatments, medications, and hospital visits can be overwhelming, especially for those without adequate health insurance. Patients may need to take extended time off work, which can lead to a loss of income and financial instability. Socially, relationships may change as friends and family members react in different ways—some offering support, while others may withdraw due to discomfort or fear. Despite these difficulties, many cancer patients find strength in their communities, advocacy groups, and nonprofit organizations that provide assistance and encouragement during their battle with the disease.

Moving Forward:

If you or a loved one are navigating the challenges of a cancer diagnosis and are seeking support, I would be honored to connect with you. I offer a compassionate and safe space to share your experiences, alleviate the emotional burdens, and guide you toward meaningful change to improve your daily life. Please feel free to reach out via my website contact page or my email: LBryson@RestorationCoachingLLC.com to schedule a complimentary discovery call and explore how we can work together.

Managing your New Normal

What does your “new normal” look like?

After a cancer diagnosis, it’s common to notice that people treat you differently. It might feel strange or uncomfortable at first — but what if it’s not a bad thing? What if it’s simply a window into a new world? The truth is, everything around you may shift… and so do you. But when you choose to embrace this version of yourself — the one shaped by strength, insight, and resilience — you begin to see that a whole new world exists. One where you get to define who you are and how you want to live moving forward. Your new normal isn’t the end — it’s a new beginning.

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